Bewildered Sweethearts

There is one situation among a significant portion of people that is something special and to which due attention has not been paid.

And that is that the state of misery and unhappiness in itself gives them additional content, despite declarative commitments au contraire, at least in their heads. This condition is most often expressed through the tendency to start or if they are already in a relationship or marriage that can be characterized as a generator of unhappiness and fear. Add to this a job, an educational institution or any kind of position and the complete picture appears on the surface.

Why, oh, why all that bewilderment...

Because a possible happy and harmonious relationship/marriage would eliminate the "value" of most of the social content they deal with. Of most of the perception of themselves. Of Fiat currency backup. Probably everyday communication with friends, comrades, friends and acquaintances, real and virtual, real and virtual parents and relatives is such that happiness never comes to the agenda. And besides, happiness irritates the aforementioned people. Much more than a bleeding hemorrhoid.

No, happiness in any combination does not bring adequate feedback. The need for comfort? It's a winner. Although it is never called comfort, do not deceive yourself by naming things as they are. That is a one-way path to isolation. Pulling the chain on those oh so powerful emotions? Chasing the rainbow round the corner?

There are certainly small differences between the male and female versions of this strange situation, but the differences are not that great. We talk at length and extensively about how the partner does not seem like him, this or that, garbage and goods, but lo and behold. There is light at the end of the tunnel, a collective council of unhappy paradise is gathered, friends feel "needed" and "useful". Comforting, giving instructions... and after the sixth beer or the seventh vodka, one comes to the legendary words "Well, he's not such a jerk. He's actually not bad. He has a heart of gold, you know. He loves me".

The number of relationships that have ended up executed by the "good intentions" of friends, girlfriends, parents, relatives and other characters is incredible. The benefit is mutual of course, a reverse engineered mutualistic concept without a parachute, the service is returned with a service when the misery changes the face, but not the content. But those "advised" are in no way victims. The good old compliance.

But it's not just that. There is also the whole picture of themselves, beyond the perception of the closest environment with which they interact on a daily basis, the alter-ego, the Ponzi scheme. Being different you know. Original. Something else. Dancing counter-clockwise on a clockwise path. The question is how different someone is if the results are always the same as those of 999 out of 1000 people. Vast, overwhelming majority of people don`t want to be happy. It takes all their projected values ​​down the drain. So the only way to make a lasting relationship is to act in a way that makes them miserable.

If you are up to it and enjoy that.

If you are not...

Ask your self how fast can you run.

(Roger Mortis 022)